Are you serving out of your guilt or your gifting?

There is this strange phenomena in churches that I call the "age and stage volunteer plan."  It goes something like this:  If you are a mother to three young children you should serve as a preschool teacher.  If you are a sixty-five year old woman you should volunteer with the Prayer Shawl ministry.  If you are a forty year old man you should volunteer in parking duty.  While this might seem like a logical volunteer plan I believe it's killing the church.

Seem like an overstatement?  Well let's look at how this plan really plays out.  So 35 year-old mom to preschoolers is asked to be a preschool teacher.  She doesn't want to teach.  She is TIRED.  She knows she is not gifted to be a teacher.  She knows her patience with preschoolers is thin, and the idea of being locked in a classroom of 15 crying two year olds is keeping her up at night.  But... she's a good Christian girl and has now been asked by the Preschool Ministry Director 15 times to be a teacher.  So out of her guilt she says yes.

Meanwhile there is a 65 year old widow who is lonely.  Her husband has just passed away and her life is way too quiet.  Hoping to "give her something to do,"  the church invites her to join the Prayer Shawl Ministry where she can come and knit shawls with other widows. She doesn't like knitting, she doesn't want to hear the list of new medications and sorrows from the other widows.  She's depressed just thinking of joining this group.  But... she's a good Christian girl and has been asked by the Senior Ministry Director 15 times.  So out of her guilt she says yes.

What if instead the church followed the Word of God?

      There are different kinds of gifts, but the same Spirit.  There are different kinds of service, but the same Lord.  There are different kids of working, but the same God works all of them in all men.  Now to each one the manifestation of the Spirit is given for the common good. 
 1 Cor 12:4-7  (for deeper study read 1-31) emphasis mine.

What if the church listened to the Spirit? What if we served as we're led by God?  What if we trusted, really trusted, that if we did this the church body would be healthier and that all our volunteer needs would be met?  What if we allowed the church body to serve from its gifting instead of its guilt?

So let's play out the volunteer lives of our two ladies from above.  We know what happens right?  They serve out of guilting and hate it.  Their souls are not satisfied.  They serve without the Spirit, because the Spirit never led them there to begin with.  Their ministries are fruit-less, because without God we will not bear fruit.

But what if we threw out the plan of age and stage volunteering and taught our congregations about the gifts of the Spirit, and showed them ALL the service needs in the church.  What if we told our congregation  to PRAY, because the Lord desires to use all of us for the common good.


Perhaps that young mom would find the Prayer Shawl ministry because she loves to knit and loves to pray.  She would be a blessing to that ministry with her beautiful handiwork.  The older women of the group would be blessed to have a younger member with new knitting patterns and lively stories from a house full of little people.  The young mom would get a break from her little ones, be mentored by older women, and would bless the ministry with her gifts.

Our widow would serve out of her gifting as a teacher. She would look forward to her hour with her class of two year olds.  Their hugs would be a gift in her week.  She would have the time to plan each week's lesson thoroughly, and to pray fervently for her students.  Those two year-olds would be blessed to have a teacher full of patience and energy - ready to love on them each week.  They would find birthday cards in their mailboxes from their teacher.  Her ministry would bear much fruit.

God has a good plan for our churches.  Do we trust that?

This fall I have turned down several women who signed up to teach in my ministry.  (You would realize how crazy this is if you knew how great our need was.)  I told these women that I believe in the Word of God.  I believe that God has a good plan for them to serve Him, and I didn't want to usurp that plan through guilt.  You see when we say yes to volunteering somewhere we are not called to, most often we close the door on serving where we were meant to be.  One of the women I said no to, was Elizabeth.  Now please know Elizabeth has been a great teacher, and would be, but... we both felt that this is not where she was called to serve this year.  Elizabeth has a wide range of gifts she uses for the Lord, but one of her gifts my ministry desperately needed - she is the craftiest, cutest, most thoughtful woman around.   I asked her if instead of teaching if she would several times during the year bless our teachers with some sort of gift of appreciation. I have 112 volunteers so this is a BIG job, but Elizabeth agreed.

She and her family kicked off our new Sunday School year with a bang.  On Promotion Sunday her family walked in with baskets of homemade cookies and water bottles for our teachers. See how cute they were!  There was even a label of the ingredients.  Really!   Last week, knowing that most of my teachers teach every other week, she was back with more baskets so that every teacher would feel blessed.

How cute is this! 
She is serving from her gifting, not her guilt.  And by the way, God did provide a teacher to take her spot, a grandmother of one of the children, who is so excited to teach.  God is good my friends.  He is so very good.  I pray as we head into a new school year, and a new church programming year that you will ask God to show you how He will have you serve, and that you will both be blessed, and be a blessing, through your work in His kingdom.

Off to Ghana, one friend's answer to God's big call.

In June, I wrote a posting asking,  what is God calling you to do?  I noticed that same day that my friend Allison posted on Facebook that she was getting vaccinations.  I asked her what was up.
Allison amazed me with her answer, she was preparing for a women's mission trip to Ghana in August.

Allison and her son Mac
 I asked Allison how she decided to go on this trip.   She answered:

 I thought it sounded interesting two years ago and couldn't go that time. my son was little and I wasn't prepared so I potentially planned on going on the next one. Then life happened and I couldn't have been in a worse position to go and I sort of forgot about it, or tried to, life was just to messy. I decided to be on the women's retreat team and help put that together. While I was working I couldn't get Africa off my mind, I sent out a prayer request to my WIW (Women in the Word) table and Cindy Ostlie (one of the greatest prayer warriors I know) praying for wisdom and guidance, was I supposed to be there, could we afford it? I waited a few days and it was clear, I would now ask my husband and my mom, respectively I needed money and child care. Without hesitation or thought both said yes and didn't question me. Yes, I am a little nervous. Is it possibly dangerous? Especially for a small blonde woman? Maybe. I know i am supposed to be there. It's on my heart and I had a clear calling from God. He spoke directly to me and I choose to obey!  

I have been so blessed in the last few months to talk to women about what God is calling them to do.  The thing that I just can't get over is it always comes down to those four simple words.  "I choose to obey."

Mac selling lemonade to raise money for his mom's trip
Allison's decision to obey God's call, flowed through her family.  Son Mac helped raise money for the trip with a lemonade stand.  Allison's mom and husband are getting to use their gifts of time and money to bless Allison with watching Mac and making the trip possible.  I think so often as moms we think we can't obey a big call from God like going on a mission trip because we will inconvenience family members by asking them to watch the kids, we think we will burden our husbands by using family funds to pay for the trip - but maybe instead we should be looking at it as offering them the opportunity to be the blessing as well.  Women and children in Ghana will be blessed by Mac as well as by Allison, what an amazing lesson to teach a seven year old.

Allison, and a group of incredible women from Cherry Creek Presbyterian Church outside of Denver, Colorado left last night for Ghana.  I am posting this today in hopes that you will join me in praying for these women.  They will be in Ghana for eleven days.  This is the description of their mission as posted on the CCPC website.

This year, thirteen women from CCPC are going to Ghana where we are helping build a school and programs for the girls/women so that they can gain skills that will help them provide for self and family. We also bring health supplies and training to help the women and their children fight off illness and remain healthy.



Talents and silence

Here's a clue into the life of Wendy... when I blog a lot, very little is going on in my life... when I stop blogging, big things are going on.  So you can take by my silence that the last month has been a full one.  This has been a month of talents and silence for me.  What does that mean?

In the book of Matthew chapter 25, Jesus tells the parable of a master who is going on a journey.  He entrusts three servants with different amounts of talents. (A talent was worth more than $1,000).  The two with the most go out and earn more, when the master returns he is pleased and gives them even more talents  to be responsible for.  The one with the least, does nothing with it, and what little he was put in charge of is taken away from him.

I heard a great sermon a few years ago that asked, Is the Lord adding to your talents or taking away?  Good question huh?  Life seems full and I sometimes think I few less responsibilities might feel good.  But when you read the account in Matthew 25 it ends with the master saying, ".., throw that worthless servant outside, into the darkness, where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth." That's pretty bad.  It's not the reaction I am looking for from God - so bring on the talents! It really is a good thing.

This summer I have watched the Lord place three new "talents" into my life.  Talents that have me excited, freaked out, thrilled and bewildered.  Once I get over the freaked out and bewildered part, I will tell you more about each of them, but just to break my own little season of silence, I wanted to share them with you.

1.  Daisy:  Daisy is our 14 year old exchange student from China. She arrived Sunday night and will be staying with us for at least a year.  She plans to be in the United States for four years, but with her parents, we have made the decision to prayerfully consider each year at a time.  We are so excited to share our amazing school, our church community, and our family with her this year.


2. A 5th grade Mother - Daughter bible study:   After a year of praying about it, God showed me a clear six week period to host a study this summer.  With great trepidation, I pulled the trigger and invited all 17  5th grade girls in Sarah's grade, and their moms to come to our house to study Elizabeth George's A Girl After God's Own Heart.  This was the third week, and it has been incredible.  We have had 18-22 moms and daughters here each week.  The discussions and prayer times have been so amazing.  I love this group of girls and their moms.  Many of us have not really had the chance to get to know each other, so it has been a very special time.





3.  Spiritual Parenting Class:  For six years I have desired to teach a spiritual parenting class. By "spiritual parenting" I mean a focus on passing on your faith through your parenting, (As opposed to a class focused on parenting topics like discipline and potty training).  This Fall I have been asked to co-teach The Legacy Path with our adult education pastor.  This class will be the first in an ongoing series of classes offered each semester in our newly developed Legacy Track of classes at Bay Leaf Baptist Church.  (If you are in the Raleigh area, please join me!  This class is open to the public and childcare or Awanas is offered at the same time!)