Throw off the Yokes - Mid Life JOY Challenge #1

Each month this year I will be posting a challenge in our Mid Life Joy series.  February brings our first challenge: Throw off the yokes!  Sisters we are not starting this series off easy!

"Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.  For my yoke is easy and my burden is light."
~  Jesus Christ to the Galatians in Matthew 11: 29-30

The word yoke has several meanings.  A yoke can be something placed on the neck of cattle used to pull something or work a field.  At the time of Jesus the word yoke was also used to refer to the laws or teachings of a specific rabbi.  When a disciple was chose to follow a rabbi, that disciple would be "taking on the yoke" of his rabbi - he would follow all the extra laws, teachings, and interpretations of that rabbi.   Taking on the yoke of a rabbi was difficult.  Following the Law is hard, really hard, actually it's impossible, now add on top of that the burden of additional laws, and teachings, and interpretations that normally went along with following a rabbi at that time.  It was a very heavy burden.   Yet Jesus calls us to take on His yoke and to learn from Him.  He called his yoke easy.  The comparison was striking.
The rabbis taught
Law + more laws+ personal preferences + personal ways and restrictions = possibly pleasing God. 

Jesus taught
Follow me + nothing = intimacy with God and eternal salvation.  

It's easy to be a bystander to history and desire to shout out to those Galatians - pick Jesus!  Pick Jesus -the rabbis are wrong!  It seems like such a clear choice.  Who would pick the teachings and misery of the yoke of the rabbis?  Who wouldn't pick Jesus?  But fast forward two thousand years and Christian culture today is full of some scary similarities.  In the world of celebrity pastors, best selling authors, and bible study teachers, we are right back in the same position as those Galatians.

Popular Christianity teaches: 
Follow Jesus + Edith Schaeffer + Beth Moore + Jen Hatmaker* = possibly pleasing God and having eternal salvation.

Jesus STILL teaches: 
Follow me + nothing = intimacy with God and eternal salvation.  

Many of us do exactly what the Galatians did - we don't pick Jesus.   We love our media darlings.  They are witty, bright, beautiful, and we want to be just like them, so we pick up their yokes and throw them around our necks.

Jesus + the lastest book + the latest study = ? 

The problem is that those yokes are attached to different agendas that pull and wear on us.  Edith Schaeffer was called to work joyfully at home.  Beth Moore is called to teach the Word.  Jen Hatmaker is called to plant churches, adopt children, and a dizzying list of other wonderful things.  These are the things they have been called to, and they have faithfully shared those personal experiences through books, and classes, and videos.  Christian culture has taken those personal messages and twisted them into modern day rabbi yokes.  Our unprecedented access to information, resources, and people has turned us into a people that take on yoke, after yoke, after yoke.  We mistakenly think the next yoke will bring: happiness, less stress, contentment, holiness, peace...  The list goes on and on, but with each extra set of teachings, each extra set of self imposed expectations, each new list of things we "should do," we get farther and farther from what we are looking for.  We get farther and father from Jesus.

 If you saw an oxen struggling under the weight of multiple heavy yokes you would be outraged at the abuse, wouldn't you?
My dear sisters, can I ask, " how many yokes are you wearing?"  

What burdens have added, and added, and added on to yourself?  Burdens the Lord has never asked you to take on.  Burdens that not only steal your JOY, but are exhausting you, leaving you weary.

This month's challenge is to look at the yokes you have taken on - and throw off all but Christ's. Throw off the yokes that have been wrongly placed on you by people around you, or by you yourself.

How do we do that?

Step 1:  Pray that God would open your eyes to false yokes you have taken on.
Step 2:  In a journal write out all the things that would complete this sentence.

Following Jesus + _______________ = Pleasing God
              For example:  dressing conservatively, leading a bible study, adopting a child, serving at the                                      food bank, homeschooling my kids, going back to work to help us get out of                                          debt,  allowing my mother to move in with us.    Small or large - list it out!                                            Add to your list as you find things coming to mind.  

Step 3:  Study God's word.  I suggest reading slowly through the book of Galatians.  We aren't the first people to deal with some extra yokes.  Study a few verses a day.  Try the SOAP method - journal out the Scripture, your Observations, your Application, and a Prayer.

Step 4:  Pray that God would show you what from your list is not something He has asked of you - but is an extra yoke you have taken on, or the world has given to you.

Step 5: Throw off those yokes! I'll share later this month a tangible way I have done this recently.

This is not an easy challenge, but I believe it is a crucial start to finding JOY in our lives - middle aged or not. :)  Jesus promised His followers something as a result of taking on His yoke (His alone), something I believe we all desire.   We can find it just a little farther up in our passage in verse 28, Jesus says.

"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest."   

I pray His rest on each of you who are weary and burdened.  I will be praying that God speaks clearly to you this month as you take on this challenge.  

* Please note I do not mean to be picking on these particular women, nor I believe it is their set intention to pull woman away from following Christ in any way.  I name them only for their popularity is a variety of segments of Christian culture. 

Celebrating a Year of Feasts

Each year, Pete and I look at how we will disciple our girls.  What things are we keeping?  What have they grown out of?   What do we want to try to add?  This year we have decided to celebrate the major Old Testament feasts as a family.  Last year we celebrated Passover with a Seder on the Thursday before Easter.  It add so much to our holiday - making the weekend truly holy days - that we want to do it again and add in a few more.

We'd like to invite your family to join us.  I am sharing our calendar with you so you can start planning ahead as well.  Prior to each feast I will share  a post about the history of the feast and how we are planning on celebrating/observing it.  Afterwards I will share photos - because we all love some photos right.

Please understand that our desire is to remember the works of the Lord and to tell them to our children - a command repeated throughout the Old Testament.  It is not our intent to try to observe Old Testament feasts as any sort attempt to keep the Law, that through Jesus we are no longer under.  Our salvation and freedom come through the blood of Christ alone, not through the keeping of feasts, law, or ritual.

Two resources that I will be drawing from are;  Finding Your Place at the Table of Tradition by Derek Leman (a wonderful study I recommend to all), and Walk with Y'shua Through the Jewish Year by Janie-sue Wertheim and Kathy Shapiro ( a wonderful family resource provided through Jews for Jesus).

Here is the calendar.  Our family will attempt to celebrate as close to these dates as possible, but since we are not observing these feasts as Law, we are going to offer ourselves a lot of grace.

Passover:  April 3rd-11th.  We will have our family Seder on Maundy Thursday which is April 2.
Shavuot:  May 23-25
Rosh Hashanah:  Sept 13-15
Yom Kipper:  Sept 22-23
Sukkot: Sept 27- Oct 4th
Hanukkah:  Dec 6th -14th

Has your family ever celebrated any of these feasts?  I would love to hear your experiences.  Please comment below or email me at wendyandersonschulz@gmail.com


The Mid Life Joy Challenge #midlifeJOY

God recently had a little smack down talk with me.   In light of my impending 40th birthday, God had a question for me:


 "If you're not happy now, with all I have given you, when will you be happy?"  

I didn't have an answer.
You see, I live my life chasing happiness on the tail of one little word -  WHEN.  

I will be happy WHEN I am married - CHECK
I will be happy WHEN we have a child - CHECK, CHECK
I will be happy WHEN we move to that house - CHECK
I will be happy WHEN we make XX amount a year - CHECK
I will be happy WHEN I have a good career - CHECK

There's a never ending list of WHEN's you can chase.  I have more freedom, luxury, security, love, and pleasure than 99% of the world's population. I have been saved for eternity by the blood of my Savior.  Yet when people ask "How are you?" my most common answers are;  busy, tired, or fine.  If I'm honest, I have to admit that I'm not a very happy person.  You see there's still a list:

I will be happy WHEN I lose 50 lbs - 
I will be happy WHEN we are out of debt -
I will be happy WHEN ...

So, I had no answer for God.

Sitting in the silence of our conversation He whispered a new word to me:  JOY.  
Joy?  That surprised me.  Not contentment, or even happiness?   He whispered JOY.   He whispered it into my ear like a reminder, an assignment, a challenge.  God wants me, His daughter, to be full of JOY now, not later, not WHEN, but now, because it's already been given to me.  You see JOY is very different than happiness.  


Happiness is a feeling human's seek, JOY is a gift God has given us. (Galatians 5:22-23)
Happiness is fleeting, JOY is eternal (John 14:1-3) 
Happiness is self-centered, JOY is God-centered.  (Psalm 1:23)
Happiness is fragile, JOY is strength.  (Nehemiah 8:10)

I've accepted the challenge to start living out a life of joy.  I'd like to invite you to join me.  
This year-long project will consist of monthly themes that will force us to take a look into areas of our lives that are stealing our Joy.  We'll look at what God says about these areas, memorize truth-giving scripture, and then walk out these truth with a challenge.  Each month I will post at the beginning of the month about the theme and challenge, at the end of the month I will post a personal recap of how I walked out the challenge.  

The challenge for January is to decide to join me in the Mid Life Joy Challenge.  If you are not subscribed to The Celebrated Family - you can do so on the right hand side of the website.  With the remaining days of January share a picture on Twitter, Instagram, of Facebook with the tag #midlifeJOY.  Let's keep our eyes open for JOY and share it with one another.