May Day Baskets …



The girls and I had a rare quiet morning at home today. We spent the morning making May Day baskets. We made simple cone shaped baskets using scrapbooking paper and ribbon. We filled them with popcorn, candy and a packet of seeds for kids and biscotti, tea and flower seeds for adults. We delivered one today (Sarah couldn't wait) and will do the others tomorrow. Here are some links on instructions for making a variety of May Day Baskets. Enjoy!


Charming May Day Baskets


A variety of baskets made from household items


Paper plate baskets with paper flowers


Duck baskets


There is still a hole in my bucket …



Friday, I told you that I had a hole in the bucket of my life. The hole is that I am frequently overwhelmed by what I think needs to be done. So many things seem to be slipping through the crack. Time with my husband, fun with my kids, details at work, laundry … need I say more. I had that song about the hole in the bucket running through my head all day. I decided to follow Liza's advice in the song and go and fix my bucket. My strategy was to go on our church's women's retreat and fix my poor little bucket.


There is only one problem with following the advice of this children's song. Do you remember the rest of the lyrics to the song? Well after Liza tells Henry to go fix his bucket, he asks her how to do it. She tells him to fix it with straw. The song follows in the same pattern with the following verses.


Henry: But the straw is too long.

Liza: Then cut it.

Henry: With what shall I cut it?

Liza: With a knife

Henry: But the knife is too dull.

Liza: Well sharpen it

Henry: With what shall I sharpen it?

Liza: With a stone

Henry: But the stone is too dry

Liza: Then wet it

Henry: With what shall I wet it?

Liza: With the water

Henry: But where shall I get it?

Liza: In the well

Henry: With what shall I fetch it?

Liza: With the bucket

Then the song starts all over again, because the darn bucket still has a hole in it! It is truly an annoying song. But, it is also a wonderfully insightful song about human nature. I know I am not the only one out there with a hole in my bucket. 60+ women from my church shared with me this weekend, that they too have holes in their buckets. We all do. Just like Liza and Henry, we try to fix them on our own. We try to fill holes like loneliness, stress, heartache, and worry with shopping, television, new organizational plans and yoga classes. In the end, all these worldly patches get us about as far as Henry got with his bucket. The holes are still there.

After a lot of prayer and walks with the Lord this weekend, I realized He likes the holes, because He can use them. It is often because of those very holes, that we fall on our knees and turn our face to His.

"I lift up my eyes to the hills – where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth. He will not let your foot slip – he who watches over you will not slumber. The Lord will keep you from all harm – he will watch over your life; the Lord will watch over your coming and going both now and forevermore." Psalm 121 1-3, 7-8.

When we do look to the Lord, He is not only ready to be our help, but also to reveal His amazing never-ending, never-changing love for us - and that is an incredibly powerful thing. So, I am actually happy to report this week that there is still a hole in my bucket. I am going to stop trying to fix it. Instead, I am going to wake in the morning and say;

"Lord, there is a hole in my bucket. I know today I will not get everything done that I need to. I know things will fall through the cracks. Lord, be my help. Be my guide. Help me to do what should be done today and let go of things that really don't matter. Lord, walk with me today."

And praise the Lord, I know He will.


There is a hole in my bucket



Do you remember the little song,


"There's a hole in my bucket, dear Liza, dear Liza.
There's a hole in my bucket, dear Liza, a hole."


Poor old Henry is trying to get through his farmer day, but there is a hole in his bucket. So Henry calls out to very practical Liza and whines about his issue. Do you remember what Liza says back?


"Then fix it dear Henry, dear Henry, dear Henry.
Then fix it, dear Henry. Dear Henry, fix it!"


Such sage advice from old Liza, I can just hear her hollering over from the chicken coop, "Fix the darn bucket Henry and get on with your life!"


Well there is a hole in my bucket. I have been whining about it for a while. Each day, I try to run through my life with a bucket that's leaking. So much seems to be slipping through the holes ( there is probably more than one.) At the end of each day, I turn around and look at a path of dropped balls, half finished projects and missed opportunities.


*** Okay I have to implant this illustration. Just now as I was typing "unfinished" I remembered that I was baking cookies. I ran up to the kitchen and the cookies are completely ruined! Fudge! Why am I making cookies you may ask? Well I need cookies for this weekend. Yesterday I went and bought a tray of two dozen cookies and apparently drove off leaving them in the parking lot. So I have to make cookies – now I have to make MORE cookies! Oh my goodness, need I say more about my scattered state!***


I don't think my bucket is irreparably broken, I think that it has just been a long time since I did any maintenance work in it. This weekend I am taking Liza's advice. I am going to try to fix my bucket – or at least take a good look at it. In one hour and 47 minutes my friend Bobbie is picking me up and we are headed to our church's women's retreat Two days, 60 + women, the quiet of the Colorado mountains and one great big powerful loving God. I can't wait and I look forward to sharing it with you next week.


*** Sidebar #2 in case you actually had to ask – Yes the TV is back on. We made it until this afternoon but it's on."

Two days into a TV free week …

Well I am very happy to announce that we are two days into being TV free and the tears have stopped. We have actually been having a very fun week and the girls have not even asked to watch a show, which just proves to me that I use the TV to babysit them. Bad mommy.

Last night Sarah and Pete had a daddy and me ice cream event at school, so it was just Emily and I at home. We took an hour long bubble bath together. I use to take baths with Sarah all the time when she was one and two. I had forgotten how fun it is. I had suggested we take a bath because I am suffering from a very yucky sinus infection and wanted to sit in the steamy bathroom, but the best medicine ended up just being with Emily, completely undistracted, to sing songs and make boats out of old Tupperware. It was great.

Tonight, the girls and I had a picnic at the park after soccer practice. It was a beautiful night out. We ate cheese sandwiches and fruit and wished all the things we saw a "happy earth day." "Happy earth day ants," "happy earth day tree," "Happy earth day squirrel." Then a HUGE swarm of flies came to our picnic and we decided that was enough happy earth day.

If you are looking for some fun and easy crafts to do with your kids, check out this online newsletter. I love receiving it. It has easy, practical and educational activities to do. The girls and I made the alphabet collage today and they really enjoyed it.

Happy TV free week to all of you!

The big turn off …



This week is National Turn off the TV week. I love this idea, it comes at a good time for our family this year. I have shamefully been using the TV as an electronic babysitter way too much lately. I use to have an unspoken rule of 1 hour of TV a day in our house. These days we are well beyond that. So last night, I announced in my very excited mommy voice, "This week is Turn Off the TV week!" There were spontaneous tears. "What does that mean"?" Sarah asked, completely horrified. I explained that this was a week set aside to do things together as a family instead of watching TV. I told her we were going to play board games, start planting our veggie garden, have dinner at the park … she kept crying.


Personally, TV is not a big deal in my life. I can truly live without it and not miss it. For the past two years I have not watched TV from Memorial Day to Labor Day. Of course the TV is on, because the kids watch it, but I don't sit down to watch my own shows. I have loved how it has freed up my summer evenings to write, read, work in the yard, and actually talk with Pete. I think it has been a really good thing for me each year. I'll admit by September I am ready to watch a new season of mindless reality TV, but for me that is what balance is all about, not letting any one thing take over my whole life.


This year, I have had it in my mind that I would like the whole family to unplug the TV on Memorial Day and leave it off until September. Pete is not too keen on this idea. He is my technology boy. I guess we will see how this week goes and go on from there. Hopefully Sarah and Emily will enjoy having time to do some different things this week, and the tears will not be a daily occurrence.


Any one up for joining me? I am going to post some evening activities throughout the week to hopefully encourage/inspire you to turn of the tube this week as well.

Conflict resolution for a two year old …

A few weeks ago the girls' bickering started to really get to me. At two (Emily) and five (Sarah ) years old, they love each other dearly, but they seem to fight more and more these days. The other day I thought I would do some conflict resolution training with them. I dug deep into my middle school memories (a place I infrequently go) and pulled out what I remember of conflict resolution. I brought the girls together and told them we were no longer going to call each other names (Sarah) or say that we hate each other (Emily).( I don't know where Emily learned to say "I hate you", but it hurts Sarah's feeling so much, she immediately cries. Hence, why Emily says it.) I said we are going to say, "You make me feel -------, when you do -------, next time can you please --------." Fill in the blanks for whatever the situation is. They practiced on what their issue of the nanosecond was, and it actually seemed to work. I was so pleased with my fabulous mothering skills.

These are two conversations I have overheard since then.

#1

Sarah: Grabs baby from Emily and throw it across the room.

Emily: "Sarah! You make me feel I hate you! You NO take my baby!"

Sarah: Immediate tears, "I hate you is NOT a feeling Emily!" "MOMMMMMMY"


 

#2

Sarah: Bonking Emily on the head with a toy.

Emily: "Sarah! You make…

Sarah: bonk

Emily: … me feel…

Sarah: bonk

Emily … very sad …

Sarah: bonk

Emily: … and owie when you bonking me on my head"

Sarah: bonk


 


 


 


 

Early Morning Catch Up

Last night (okay it was early evening), I went to bed at 5:45. I don't know what happened, but I literally could not be awake one more minute. Maybe it was the snow falling outside which was calling out "mama bear go back to bed, it's not spring yet," or maybe it was just complete exhaustion from running on empty for the past few weeks. Either way, I got a blissful 10 hours of sleep before waking up at 4 this morning. I love being up before the rest of my family. I have a chance to drink my coffee alone, send e-mails that are longer than two sentences and catch up on reading some of my favorite blogs.

I am always amazed by blogs. There is something so powerful about average people being able to share their honest and heartfelt experiences, thoughts and ponderings. Here are two that touched my heart this morning. The first is John's post "Little Red Safe" at Dirty Shame. I love reading a dad's perspective. Most days when I visit John's blog, I leave with tears in my eyes. He is a really beautiful and gifted writer. The second is Manya's post "Expecting Change" at Expectations. I feel my life is full of change these days; some wanted, some unwanted, some I am totally unsure about. I love the line Manya writes here, "I will leave the regrets at the fork, sure I will never want to come back." Such a wonderful brave goal.

I hope that you find yourself with a cup of coffee and 30 minutes of quiet today to catch up on blogs, or e-mail, or Survivor. If you do, let me know what blogs you are reading these days. I love to find great new blogs to read.

First summer night

Last evening, Pete went out and played golf and the girls and I dug in the garden and then went for a bike ride. It was our first "summer night" of the season. Colorado is such a weird weather state. We don't really have spring. Spring is just a group of weeks where some days it is winter and some days it is summer, until the summer days outnumber the winter days and it is finally summer.

Yesterday felt just like summer. During the summer Pete plays golf one or two nights a week. On those nights, the girls and I always work on the garden, eat a fast dinner outside and play until everyone is exhausted. They are great nights, that I look forward to all winter.

Yesterday it was about 80 degrees out. The girls and I worked on the garden (translation - they dug for worms and rolly pollies and I cut back the rose bushes). Our neighbors Ericka, Sophia and Nicholas came over and played for a while. Then we went for a bike ride.
Sarah is still using training wheels but she loves to ride her bike. Emily enjoys riding in her little cart behind my bike. The farthest we had ventured before last night, was to my parents house which is all of about half a mile away.

Last night, Sarah decided she wanted to go for a "big bike" ride. We rode and rode around the neighborhood and found ourselves at the entrance to the state park. Sarah was so excited to find herself there, she insisted we go into the park. We rode for about 1-2 miles on the trails in the park before heading back home. She rode all the way and was such a trooper. I was SO proud of her!

Riding around the park trails was such a surreal moment for me. When we bought our house last summer, I imagined one day riding down to the park with the girls. It was on my list of 'wouldn't that be nice if one day we did ---." Here we were, actually doing it. It was wonderful. Hopefully it was the first of many great rides this summer.
But tomorrow it is going to snow - so our next ride won't be for a few more days.

The good, the bad and the ugly ...

Hello friends,

Many of you followed my weekly family devotions for Lent. I loved hearing about the experiences your families were having together. If I had to narrow down my biggest vocational passion, it would be helping families connect with one another in their faith. Having so many of you doing my devotions this Spring has just been an amazing experience for me.

The devotions which were posted on the blog, or printed in Let's Celebrate Our Savior, are part of a book project I have been putting together for a little over a year. This May, I am attending a writer's conference to speak to agents and editors about the book.

This is where you come in! The clock is now ticking for me to get my materials put together and ready for the conference. I need your comments, feedback and ideas. If your family did any of the devotions or activities, I would love to hear from you. Please let me know how it went, what worked, and what did not. I am not looking to have my back patted, I am looking for your honest (even if they are critical) thoughts.

Please e-mail me at wendy_schulz@msn.com with your comments. I very much appreciate it!

Wendy

The grace of good friends …

About a month ago, I somehow lost all common sense. In the course of about 12 hours I completely screwed up in two gigantic ways, affecting three of my friends. In the midst of my rather large lapses in judgment, my friends Susan, Suzi and Josie, offered me such amazing grace that I am still in awe. My first moronic move happened at Sarah's spring school concert. At Sarah's school, parents are invited to come to the dress rehearsal. This is a wonderful opportunity because you can see exactly where your child is going to stand, so you will know where to sit at the concert. So of course I had it all planned out where we would sit. Off my family went (very early – remember I dealing with the same set of parents who started the registration line 9 hours before registration). I got great seats for my family.

While I was sitting there, I saw my friend Susan's mom sitting on the other side of the church. Little meddlin' me decides, "Oh I should go tell Susan's mom to come sit by us because our seats are better." You see Susan had missed the dress rehearsal so I thought her mom had just taken a random seat. So off I march (why! Why! Why Wendy!) I go and tell Susan's mom to move. She tells me "this is just where Susan told me to sit." (Of course I should have stopped here – but no) I tell her, "I think the other side is going to be much better." So off they all go – Susan's mom, dad and sister. Well low and behold, Susan had had another friend video tape the dress rehearsal and had picked out the perfect spot from which to see her son perform. No one in their family could see Alex at all from my suggested seats. I literally wanted to cry through the whole concert. It was awful. I felt SO bad. What in the world possessed me to march over there and get involved! Why, why why! If I could have found a big enough hole, I would have climbed right into it!

I spent much of the reception apologizing to Susan and her husband. Susan was amazing. There was never a flicker of frustration or anger with me. She just kept telling me it didn't matter. She was amazing. Here I made her miss her son's last preschool performance, and she had nothing but grace and love to offer me.

Nary twelve hours later, I was driving two of my co-workers, Suzi and Josie, to a work related training in Loveland, Colorado. A place I have never been before. But I assumed I sort of knew where it was, so I tucked the directions in my purse and off we drove.(Again – why! Why Wendy!) Josie had just moved here from Florida, so she didn't have a clue, and Suzy very wrongly assumed I knew what I was doing. After all, I did say I knew where I was going. So we drove and chatted, and chatted and drove and two hours later I asked Suzi to pull the directions out of my purse. When she read the directions it was like a 50 lb weight socking me in the stomach. I had driven us 170 miles in the WRONG direction! It was quickly obvious that we would not make the training. Both of them, who work A LOT of hours, had woken up at an ungodly hour on a Saturday for me to drive us on a 4 hour trip to nowhere.

I was ready for them to be frustrated. I was ready for a bit of whining. I wasn't ready for the laughter. They both just started laughing. They laughed on and off for the next two hours as I drove us back out of the mountains. Not mockingly, not in hysteria – just honest, good humored laughing. Amazing grace.

Ephesians 4:2 says, "Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love." Thank you ladies for bearing with me in love and patience.

1 John 4:12 says, "No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us." It is so true. Their love offered to me when it was much undeserved, exhibited the love of our Father which lives in all three of them. What great witnesses they are.

Although it held all the ingredients of a truly bad weekend, it reminded me that God has placed me amongst truly wonderful people. Thank you ladies!

It’s the stupid things that make me so happy …

I think the saying is supposed to be "it's the simple things," but today it was the stupid, silly and sweet things that made my day.

Here is my list:

  1. The Grocery Game – I have been trying to have our monthly grocery bill be under $1000 a month for the last year. I actually want it to be about $500 a month, but when you buy organic meat, dairy, veggies, fruit and bread that just doesn't happen. So I had set a goal for myself to use The Grocery Game to try to save 50% off my bill. (If you are not familiar with The Grocery Game, it is a website where you log in and print out a list of the really good sales at your local store – it tell you which coupons to use and how much to buy to get the best deal.) At the bottom of your receipt at King Soopers it tells you the percentage you have saved that day. I have been hovering around 40% for about a month. It would be safe to say that I am obsessed with this little game. I feel the need to tell everyone how much I saved that week. Pete and my mom are getting rather weary of the "guess how much I saved today" game. Well today I finally did it! Right on the dot. I spent $107 and saved $106. Yippee. I am still excited 5 hours later. Of course I had to call to call my friends and my mom and ask "guess how much I saved today!"


  2. John and Kate Plus Eight on TLC. Have you seen this show? It follows a couple (John and Kate) and their two six-year-olds and six two-year-olds. I am a reality tv sucker to begin with, but this show tops my list. After a day with my two very nice little girls who completely exhaust me, I love to watch this crazy family with all of their kids. It is complete mayhem, kids are everywhere, two or three of them are always screaming, the mom is a total control freak who is always mean to her husband, basically - it makes me feel much better about myself! J Sarah watched it one day with me and said "wow that mommy has way too many of those little babies." It's a great waste of thirty minutes of my life.


  3. Little girl pedicures – tonight after their bath, the girls asked me to paint their toenails. We pulled out all the nail polish and carefully made our selections – although it always ends up being the same ones – glittery purple for Sarah, very bright pink for Emily, dark pink for me. I painted all of our nails on the bathroom floor. I love seeing all 30 of our painted toenails wiggling together as we wait for them to dry. Sarah makes up songs while we wait. Tonight's song went something like this. "I gotta blow, blow, blow on my toes, I gotta blow, blow, blow, blow, blow on my toes and get all the wet part oooouuuuuuttt! It was a sweet ending to a happy day.

So now I have shared the stupid, silly and sweet things that made my day. What makes your day end with a smile?

Making friends with my MIL



I don't know when or where mother-in-laws jokes started. I wonder if every culture has them, or it just one of those American things. Regardless of their origin, I know that I definitely participated in them for the first 7 or 8 years of my marriage. I can safely say that when Pete proposed to me neither Pat, my MIL, or myself got what we had hoped for in a daughter/mother-in-law. I was this giant 6 foot non-southern, non-Baptist, shopping hating, non-make-up wearing Democratic oddity to her. She was a very southern, small town woman with giant fake red hair, matching lip stick and an obsession with the mall. There was much disappointment on both sides.


Neither of us worked too hard on making the situation better. She questioned Pete's choice in proposing to a woman who would (get ready, this is good!) "Burn in hell eternally" for being raised Catholic. Looking back I wasn't that great either. I completely excluded her from the planning of our wedding. Basically she was just an invited guest. I also announced early in our engagement that I had no intention of EVER spending Christmas with her, as I love my own family tradition of going to the Bahamas. Those are two pretty tough things with Pete being an only child.


We lived in a mutually unhappy state of veiled dislike for the next 8 years. Along the way we really missed some great opportunities. When my first child, Sarah, was born, Pat and I clashed for her entire first visit. I was hormonal, exhausted and a complete control freak. Although she had successfully raised Pete, she obviously knew NOTHING about children. Instead of letting her enjoy her first grandchild, I spent four days complaining about how she did everything wrong. She spent three days dragging 2-week-old Sarah and I to the mall. Of course things came to a terrible clash and she left with only an hour's notice, 5 days before she was scheduled to. It was a disaster.


But a bigger disaster was looming, one that would finally break my heart enough to make me see Pat for who she is. Three years ago we got a call that my father-in-law had died suddenly from a heart attack. Pat had held him while he died in their home. We immediately got to the airport and flew to Tennessee. In the course of the next few days, I watched Pat bury Johnny with astounding grace, strength and faith. But you see she had done this before, actually twice before. Pat had buried Pete's father when Pete was 5, his first step father when Pete was in college, and now she was burying his second step-father. As I watched her during those sad days, my heart literally broke for her. How can someone bury three husbands before their 60th birthday? How can someone get up in the morning, put one foot in front of the other and sing praises to God after all that? My eyes were finally opened to see beyond the hair and makeup and shopping sprees, I finally saw a women who deserved (and really wanted) my respect and love.


Pat spent a lot of time with us that summer and fall. During that time, both of our hearts softened, healed and completely changed toward one another. She came when Emily was born and we had a great visit. I begged her to stay for a third week. Yes, she still wanted to go shopping, and we did. I have learned to shrug my shoulders and say thank you – most of her shopping these days is focused on dressing the girls. She learned to shrug her shoulders and feed the girls tofu and only organic dairy products. Although I do it differently than she did with Pete, she never misses a chance to tell me that I am a good mom. I really appreciate that.


Having just come home from visiting Pat last week, I am completely in awe of how things have changed over the years for us. It is nothing short of a miracle! I look forward to our visits together, and I am sad when they end. When we are together, we talk until midnight or until we just have to go to sleep. After 11 years, I can finally say that we are truly friends now and I am so grateful for it.


Hello hello hello

Hi everyone,
Sorry for the unannounced little blog break. Many of you know we have been in Pete's home town in Tennessee for the past week. I completely forgot the fact that some people actually live without Internet! I had visions of catching up on postings while the kids ran around with their grandma and other assorted relatives. No such luck. The Internet fast was actually much harder on Pete who is completely addicted to all things computer related. On Monday we found a Panara about 30 minutes from my MIL's and left Pete there while the girls and I went shopping. He was a changed man after an hour of Internet access!
Aside from the Internet issues, we had a great week of visiting with relatives and driving around the beautiful Tennessee hills (I just can't call mountains - I'm a Colorado girl!). Spring has actually sprung there and it was amazing to get to see the dogwoods, pear and cherry trees abloom.

I am looking forward to sharing some of our experiences with you in the next few days, but first things first - we have a winner for March's drawing. Congratulations Angie! Let me know where I you would like me to send your Barnes and Noble gift card.

Angie has a great blog about her life as a mom of four and a missionary living in southern Africa. Go check it out.