The big turn off …



This week is National Turn off the TV week. I love this idea, it comes at a good time for our family this year. I have shamefully been using the TV as an electronic babysitter way too much lately. I use to have an unspoken rule of 1 hour of TV a day in our house. These days we are well beyond that. So last night, I announced in my very excited mommy voice, "This week is Turn Off the TV week!" There were spontaneous tears. "What does that mean"?" Sarah asked, completely horrified. I explained that this was a week set aside to do things together as a family instead of watching TV. I told her we were going to play board games, start planting our veggie garden, have dinner at the park … she kept crying.


Personally, TV is not a big deal in my life. I can truly live without it and not miss it. For the past two years I have not watched TV from Memorial Day to Labor Day. Of course the TV is on, because the kids watch it, but I don't sit down to watch my own shows. I have loved how it has freed up my summer evenings to write, read, work in the yard, and actually talk with Pete. I think it has been a really good thing for me each year. I'll admit by September I am ready to watch a new season of mindless reality TV, but for me that is what balance is all about, not letting any one thing take over my whole life.


This year, I have had it in my mind that I would like the whole family to unplug the TV on Memorial Day and leave it off until September. Pete is not too keen on this idea. He is my technology boy. I guess we will see how this week goes and go on from there. Hopefully Sarah and Emily will enjoy having time to do some different things this week, and the tears will not be a daily occurrence.


Any one up for joining me? I am going to post some evening activities throughout the week to hopefully encourage/inspire you to turn of the tube this week as well.

Conflict resolution for a two year old …

A few weeks ago the girls' bickering started to really get to me. At two (Emily) and five (Sarah ) years old, they love each other dearly, but they seem to fight more and more these days. The other day I thought I would do some conflict resolution training with them. I dug deep into my middle school memories (a place I infrequently go) and pulled out what I remember of conflict resolution. I brought the girls together and told them we were no longer going to call each other names (Sarah) or say that we hate each other (Emily).( I don't know where Emily learned to say "I hate you", but it hurts Sarah's feeling so much, she immediately cries. Hence, why Emily says it.) I said we are going to say, "You make me feel -------, when you do -------, next time can you please --------." Fill in the blanks for whatever the situation is. They practiced on what their issue of the nanosecond was, and it actually seemed to work. I was so pleased with my fabulous mothering skills.

These are two conversations I have overheard since then.

#1

Sarah: Grabs baby from Emily and throw it across the room.

Emily: "Sarah! You make me feel I hate you! You NO take my baby!"

Sarah: Immediate tears, "I hate you is NOT a feeling Emily!" "MOMMMMMMY"


 

#2

Sarah: Bonking Emily on the head with a toy.

Emily: "Sarah! You make…

Sarah: bonk

Emily: … me feel…

Sarah: bonk

Emily … very sad …

Sarah: bonk

Emily: … and owie when you bonking me on my head"

Sarah: bonk


 


 


 


 

Early Morning Catch Up

Last night (okay it was early evening), I went to bed at 5:45. I don't know what happened, but I literally could not be awake one more minute. Maybe it was the snow falling outside which was calling out "mama bear go back to bed, it's not spring yet," or maybe it was just complete exhaustion from running on empty for the past few weeks. Either way, I got a blissful 10 hours of sleep before waking up at 4 this morning. I love being up before the rest of my family. I have a chance to drink my coffee alone, send e-mails that are longer than two sentences and catch up on reading some of my favorite blogs.

I am always amazed by blogs. There is something so powerful about average people being able to share their honest and heartfelt experiences, thoughts and ponderings. Here are two that touched my heart this morning. The first is John's post "Little Red Safe" at Dirty Shame. I love reading a dad's perspective. Most days when I visit John's blog, I leave with tears in my eyes. He is a really beautiful and gifted writer. The second is Manya's post "Expecting Change" at Expectations. I feel my life is full of change these days; some wanted, some unwanted, some I am totally unsure about. I love the line Manya writes here, "I will leave the regrets at the fork, sure I will never want to come back." Such a wonderful brave goal.

I hope that you find yourself with a cup of coffee and 30 minutes of quiet today to catch up on blogs, or e-mail, or Survivor. If you do, let me know what blogs you are reading these days. I love to find great new blogs to read.