Emily Burned Down the House

We have a Christmas memory book where I write down the best memories of that year’s Christmas season.  Each year I am sure that this will be the year I write…

Emily burned down the house.

Each December we change up our family devotions by doing them at night around an Advent wreath.  We light the candles… and EVERY night Emily is a little moth getting closer, and closer … so very close to the flame.  Most nights I’m sure she’s going to topple the candles over and burn the house down.   There have been many close calls, and a whole lot of spilled wax.  

I think, “Why can’t this simple thing be easy!”

No matter the season that’s how it goes with family devotions.  If you make the radical choice to be super weird and teach your children the Bible, it’s not going to be easy.  There are no Norman Rockwell nights.  (If there are at your house, please don’t tell me. I can’t handle it.)  Things go wrong when you try to have family devotions… the dog barks non-stop, drinks get spilled, the phone rings 7 times, parents cry.  Why?  The enemy doesn’t want you to do this one very powerful thing…

Open the Bible and read it to your children.

It seems like you’re doing this simple thing, so it should be easy.  But you’re not doing something simple, so it’s not going to be easy. 

When you open the Bible with your kids…

…you give the Church a future.

…you plant seeds for the third and fourth generation.

…you train an army for the Lord.

 You may appear to be doing something simple, but you’re actually doing something remarkable. 

This morning was the second day of school.  I forgot to set my alarm.  (On the second day!)  We ran around rushed, and late, and disorganized, but Pete herded us to the kitchen table and he opened the Bible.   As he read the Word of God over our girls I was reminded yet again that training them for the Lord is never going to be easy.   We may have rushed mornings, spilt cereal, and come December more close calls with candles, but what we’ll have done with our girls will have had eternal impact – and that’s so much better than easy.  

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How to talk about the news with your kids

At the beginning of last week I set out to offer ideas for how to talk to your children about the persecution of Christians in Iraq. Throughout the week I posted through the Celebrated Family Facebook page articles and ideas to encourage you.  This post was supposed to go out last Thursday with five ideas for talking to your kids. The post didn't come out because I didn't have any ideas for you, or for myself.  Last  week I was so sad, there was so much horrible news, and I wasn't sure what to do with it all.

• The unfathomable news from Iraq and the atrocities being done not just to Christians but also to Muslim women.
• Israel
• Ferguson
• Robin Williams
• The news within my church family of deaths, separations, and terrible diagnosis.
• The news of a childhood friend's husband going into cardiac arrest.

I tried somehow to shove all that information, and pain, and worry into my brain, and heart, and prayers but it didn't fit.  It just didn't fit.   I wanted to just turn my eyes and heart away from female genital mutilations,  mountains full of refugees, and a world that seems to be crumbling, crumbling, crumbing.   So how am I supposed to explain any of this to my kids? What are the neat and clean steps to being a good mom amidst all of this?  Don't we all love a post that gives you 5 steps for doing anything perfectly? So I took a little media fast for the last few days, and spent more time praying than reading news reports.  Here are my 5 suggestions, not steps, and I'd like to ask for your suggestions as well.  After reading this, will you share in the comments how your family deals with talking about the news?

1. Have a purpose in sharing news with your children:
The above list was just last week's news.  This week there will be a new list.  Our children should not be exposed to all of it.  Discern through prayer what your children needs to know and why.  Share those stories with a teaching purpose.  What do you want your children to learn from this story?  What is your family's response, if any, going to be?  (Prayer, giving, raising awareness?)

2. Talk about a news story for more than 5 minutes:
Our country has a tiny attention span.  I tracked stories in Iraq last week on FB and watched how they disappeared as new stories came to light and the country rallied around them - at least for 5 minutes.  If you share a news story like Ferguson, or Iraq with your children, continue to talk about that one story.  There are still refugees on a mountain, tensions are still rising in Missouri, even when another story comes to light later today.  It 's better for our children to understand one event and the resolutions that unfolds over time, than to be brought up on snippets of 100 stories of which they have no understanding.

3.  Get a map:
When talking about a news story, get out a map.  Show your children where Iraq is located in relation to where you live.  Kids often struggle with not only geography but understanding that the news story you are talking about is not nearby.  Will IS(IS) come to your neighborhood tomorrow?  No, Iraq is very far away.

4. Don't bow to political correctness:
This may sound like terrible advice, but in the last 20 years we have become so politically correct that we can't actually speak truth.  Speak truth to your children and don't worry about being politically correct - be factually correct.  Ferguson is about race.  There is genocide going on in Iraq driven by extreme Islamic beliefs.  Robin Williams struggled with mental illness and drug addiction.  We need to speak uncomfortable words because they are the truth.


5.  Keep Heaven as your context
We should view all news stories through the context of Heaven and Jesus.   In light of Heaven, these moments are short.  Through Jesus this will all be redeemed - and that time is coming soon.  Once we set that hope in the center of our hearts, we can take all the horrible news and place it in the context that this world is passing and Heaven will be forever.    This might sound simple minded to suggest, but it's the truth.   Jesus and Heaven are the only structure to give ourselves, or our children, about the world in which we live.  We can hold lemonade stands to raise $37 for the refuges.  We can vote for a different political party next November.  We can change our Facebook picture to show solidarity.  We can do all these things, which are good and often important, but if we try to make them our way to handle the world's pain, we will always fall short, we will always be overwhelmed, and we will always miss the hope that God offers to us.

What are your suggestions? Please share them so we can encourage one another this week.

Am I teaching my kids a fairy tale, again?

I am struggling to figure out how to explain the Christian genocide going on in Iraq to my girls.
We don't watch the news at our house.  I shelter my girls by choice, because I don't believe that there is much value in daily doses of stories of rape, murder, and war when you are 8 years old.  But my friend asked me to help her know how to explain to her sons what is going on in Iraq with our Christian brothers and sisters.  I had no advice for her, because I haven't explained it to my girls yet.

Photo Credit: Washington Post Aug 8, 2014

 I wanted to avoid this topic because it saddens and terrifies me on very deep levels, but the Lord has prompted my heart that I can't ignore it.   I am doing a disservice to my girls by keeping it from them. These are their brothers and sisters in Christ.  Persecution of the Church is real, am I willing to teach them that, or am I just teaching them a fairy tale, again?  As I started to wrestle with this, several posting I had shared in the summer of 2012 came to mind.  I will be reposting them this week, with a new posting at the end of the week about our brothers and sisters in Iraq.

Am I teaching my kids a fairy tale?  

(originally posted summer of 2012)

My Facebook news feed and my heart are both full today of the sad news of Colorado’s many forest fires.  The images coming out of Colorado are truly unbelievable. 

photo credit: cathywaltersphotography

My girls are attending VBS this week.  Last night at dinner Emily told us the saying of the day was “Amazing!  God’s power over all circumstances!”

Amazing, I thought to myself.  I know this week our home church in Denver is doing the same VBS, as are many others.   I praise God for teaching kids all over Colorado this week this simple truth. 

 God is powerful over all circumstances.

But it made me wonder, am I teaching this truth at home?  God is powerful over all circumstances.  In fires, and floods, illness and death, am I teaching my children that God is in those circumstances? 

A few years ago my aunt and I were talking about faith.  She said, “When I was raising my kids I told them a fairy tale version of God, but when life got tough they didn’t believe the fairy tale anymore, and they didn’t believe in God either.” 

I knew just what she meant by a " fairy tale version of God".  We tell our kids the story of the animals God protected on the Ark, how Daniel was just fine in the den and baby Jesus came to help us all go to Heaven.  How does the saying go ... a partial truth is a whole lie? 

When Sarah was three she asked me what happened to the animals that didn’t get on the ark.  I told her they swam. 

Why was I afraid to tell her the truth?   Was I afraid that she couldn’t love a God that saved two giraffes and drowned the rest?  Did I think that I could hide death, could hide the fallen state of our world from her?

At nine, I can’t convince Sarah that the rest of the animals swam, but what other fairy tales am I selling her in the place of true knowledge of God? 

When I teach her to pray for situations burdening her heart am I teaching her to approach God as the Great I Am, or a genie in a bottle?  If I only teach her to pray to God with the power of wishing on a star, when her house burns down or washes away who will she think God is? 

It was not a fairy tale faith that allowed Job after losing all his children and wealth in a day fall to the ground and worship the Lord saying, “The Lord gave, and the Lord has taken away; may the name of the Lord be praised.” 

After enduring financial ruin and the loss of his son in the Great Chicago Fire and then losing his daughters in a shipwreck, it was not a fairy tale faith that prompted Horatio Spafford to pen these words in the famous hymn It is Well with my Soul:

When peace like a river, attendeth my way,
When sorrows like sea billows roll;
Whatever my lot, Thou hast taught me to say,
It is well, it is well, with my soul

As much as I wish I could hand my girls a fairy tale world to live in, I have only the real one to offer.   What a shame it would be to sell them short with a fairy tale faith, when we have such an amazing God.  They'll need to know the truth (or as much of it as this poor mind can pass on) of an awesome God who is in control of all things, even the things that look out of control.  Of a good God who is working all things together for HIS good, even the bits that are very, very bad.  And of a saving God who has promised us citizenship in a much, much better world to come. 

“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace.  In this world you will have trouble.  But take heart!  I have overcome the world.”  John 16:33

 photo credit: www.9news.com